When I met someone and fell in love. And they fell in love with me.
And instead of being “nice”, I tried to be as honest as I could about what I needed. And I asked what they needed. And I listened. I really listened.
And it was hard. But I said to my new boyfriend:
“You can leave anytime. I love you, and want to be with you, but if you don’t feel the same way, you’re free to go.”
And I meant it. And he said something similar to me…
And we’ve said it many times to each other. Not as a threat, or in anger, or to make the other person feel guilty. But to affirm, “I choose you, I love you, and I’m so lucky to have you in my life”.
And we have so much fun together. We laugh. And we’re playful, and silly with each other. We play music. We sing.
Sometimes, we talk for hours, and we don’t notice it.
We often get lost when driving. We’re so focused on the other, that we forget where we are going!